What do you think of when you think of a mother?
Nurturing? Selfless? Fun? Loving? Caring? Your best friend? The person who gave birth to you?
Well I agree with all of the above apart from the last one.
While giving birth made me a mum, it didn’t make my mum one.
You see I was chosen. I was adopted. So my mum didn’t carry me for nine months or go through agony to give birth to me. Someone did but it wasn’t my mum.
My mum may not have given birth to me but she is the best mum I could ever have asked for.
She is fearless, my mum. She has stuck up for me for my whole life and believed in me-maybe even if I might have been wrong (not very often) she always finds some good in a bad situation-even when she may not have agreed with what I have done
She is the one always on my side.
I didn’t appreciate my mum properly until I became a mother myself-how ironic is that?
The total limitless love you feel.
Some people don’t agree with allowing your mother to be present at the birth of your children but, because she hadn’t experienced giving birth to me, I wanted her experience it with me. If you’re in pain, you always want your mum no matter how old you are so for me, it made sense.
Somehow the birth of Boo made us even closer.
I’ve been horrible to my mum in the past. I was the teenager from hell. I told her I hated her quite a lot.
I didn’t hate her, quite the opposite.
I can’t thank my mum enough for all that she has done for me. The care, the love, the sacrifice.
She’s my best friend and my rock.
In many ways, the giving birth is the easy part. It is the years after which prove you’re a mum.
Happy Mother’s Day.
Shannon
What a great post! I couldn’t agree with you more. I have two cousins who are adopted and my aunt and uncle are probably the best parents I know, and as I have watched my cousins go from babies to teenagers I am in awe of what a good job they did. Even speaking as a biological mom of three, giving birth really is the easy part. Cheers.
Coombemill
Sounds like you and your Mum have a wonderful relationship
farmerswifeandmummy
Thank you we do. We are very lucky <3
Jaime Oliver
awww this is beautiful and i am lucky to have a dad that is the same to me, we are not related by blood but he by far is the most amazing man i have ever met d he choose to be my dad so that makes it more special 🙂
Thanks for linking up with #MagicMoments xxx
Super Busy Mum {Debs}
Aww what a lovely post & I hope you BOTH had a magical Mothers day!! #magicmoments xx
Merlinda (@pixiedusk)
Awww a sweet mothers day message. ims ure your mum is so touch =) #magicmoments
Morgan Prince
What a lovely post. It’s great when you can finally tell your mum how much you appreciate what they did. I’ve done this recently with my step-mum. You’re so right, becoming a mum makes you realise just how much they care. x #AllAboutYou
Iona@redpeffer
What a lovely post and I think you’re absolutely right. It’s not about the giving birth really so much as the whole of your and their lives that matters most.
Maddy@writingbubble
A very touching post. Pregnancy and birth is only part of motherhood and not even an essential part! What really makes us mums is looking after and loving our kids throughout their lives. #pocolo
BakedPotato Mummy
A really touching post. Just because you gave birth to a baby, it doesn’t always make you a great mum and just because you’re not related by birth, it doesn’t mean you’re not the best mummy a baby could ask for.
I have a wonderful relationship with my mum and having Potato has made it even stronger, especially now D lives abroad.
I hope both you and your mum enjoyed another’s Day
#PoCoLo
Dean of Little Steps
I’ve only really appreciated my mum when I too became a mother. My husband is adopted too and as far as he is concerned, his mum is his mum and that’s that. We’ve been trying to have another child, but it doesn’t seem to be meant to be. I guess it could also be the age, we’re not young anymore. I’m thinking whether adoption could be the road for us too. #PoCoLo
Kim Carberry
Beautiful post x
Louisa
Such a wonderful, heartfelt post. You are so right, being a mother is so much more than giving birth. #PoCoLo
Verily Victoria Vocalises
What a truly lovely post and great tribute to your Mum 🙂 my Mum was there at Grace’s birth ANSI am so glad that she was as I am still able to share these memories with her. Thank you for linking to PoCoLo x
Verily Victoria Vocalises
Sorry about the spelling mistake! Darned phones!! X
Mama and More aka Zaz
I couldn’t agree with you more. My stepdad has been more of a father to me than my biological father through all my years, and taught me through love and being there that being a parent isn’t just about biology. Beautiful post, thank you for linking up to #AllAboutYou
Luci - Mother.Wife.Me
I didn’t have the easiest of births – or rather my daughter didn’t! – but I get what you mean! I worry for the teenage years, then the years when she isn’t around for me to protect her, a mother’s lot is not an easy one 😉 #AllAboutYou
Loving life with little ones
A lovely post, I have a recently adopted neice and nephew who are very much part of the family now. We often do not appreciate our parents until we become a parent ourselves. How lovely to share your daughters birth with your mum x, #pocolo
Erica Price
What a lovely post! I think it’s nice that your mum was at your daughter’s birth.
Sarah Howe
Awww lovely post. I had my mum with me when I gave birth too. Happy Mother’s Day! xxx
Caroline (Becoming a SAHM)
Ooh i was already feeling a little soppy but am definitely emotional now! Lovely post honey, being a mum really does appreciate your mum so much more! xx
EmilyandIndiana
Could not agree more that becoming a mum makes you appreciate your own a whole lot more! I didn’t have my mum at my birth but I went straight to her house when I was in labour, and she was amazing xx
Tin Box Traveller
Couldn’t agree more. What happens on the labour ward, or where ever you end up having your baby, is a drop in the ocean. Being a great mum happens over the rest of your life. I too didn’t really appreciate what my mum and everything she had gone through until I became one. It makes me love her even more 🙂 x #MaternityMondays
Laura @ Life with Baby Kicks
I love this post, its very true that giving birth is just part of the process its the rest of it that matters #maternitymondays xx
Multicultural Motherhood
What a beautiful post. I have had my Mum with me both times I’ve given birth and will hopefully have her with me this time too. Couldn’t imagine doing it without her support.
#maternitymondays
Mim
Oh what a beautiful and wonderful post – your mum sounds so special, as does the amazing bond you both share! Mim @ mamamim.com #maternitymonday
Another Bun
Thank you so much for sharing this – beautifully written x
Pippa Ainsworth
Ah, beautiful post Emma. Your mum sounds like a wonderful, special woman. Happy Mother’s Day to you both xx
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