Have we lost the ability to parent our children? Do some parents not even want to?
These are the questions which have been buzzing around my head since reading about the gang dressed as waiters trying to kidnap British children in Cyprus.
If you think, when parents put their children into child care in the UK, they can spend months researching their choice of setting. Every member of staff has to be CRB checked and the settings are usually secure.
Then parents jet off on their annual summer holiday and allow their children to go off with total strangers for most or part of the day.
While I am sure holiday companies CRB check their staff, surely the same cannot be true for the rest of the hotel staff. Or the other guests. You do not know who these people are or what their motives may be.
It seems some parents believe they deserve a break too whilst on holiday and while I can understand that to an extent, having children, by default, means you will never have a break again.
Why would anyone want to put their children in breakfast clubs, after school clubs, holiday clubs and then not spend every waking minute with their child when they go on holiday?
Is it because, due to work commitments and wrap around childcare that, as a society, we have lost the ability to parent our children?
I’ve heard excuses this week being knocked around like they need entertaining or they have so much energy, I couldn’t keep up.
Well is that not what being a parent is all about?
At any holiday resort, there are bound to be other families holidaying with children. Why can’t children just play together under the supervision of their parents rather than being dumped in a kids holiday club? Or shock horror, parents play with their kids?
Having children changed my life. I am lucky that my daughter’s first taste of childcare was at a preschool when she was three. If I had had to leave her with strangers at six months, I don’t think I could have coped.
I feel sorry for the parents who have no choice and have to leave their children in order for them to work.
I am also aware that many parents relish the break of working so that their brain is still occupied with things other than nappy changes and soft play but either way, in these circumstances, why would anyone want to then spend their precious family holiday time without having their children with them?
Rather than be brainwashed by society who accept a parent needs, space, think of the children who, let’s face it, could probably really benefit from having time with their parents.
Build a sand castle, splash in the pool, read books, eat together.
Don’t leave your children with strangers. Our children need their parents, the interaction, their time, to know who they are. Regain your parenting and your children.
Have we learnt nothing from Madeliene McCann?