I just read an article in the Daily Mail and I felt compelled to write.
It was about a couple who are bringing their little boy up to be gender neutral.
Apparently, this couple are allowing their son to wear both ‘boys’ and ‘girls’ clothing as they think gender stereotyping can be damaging to children and can make boys grow up to be aggressive.
Now it is up to them what they do with their children…can you sense a but coming?
BUT… if you were to bring your children up to be gender neutral, would you not dress them in anything but traditionally male or female? There would be no pink or blue.
I know this debate has been raging for a while but I thought the argument was the colour of items (pink toys for example) not the type-skirts, trousers etc?
Surely if these people claim the type of clothes you wear, shapes the type of person you become then the out-dated (and wrong) view that women who wear short skirts and low-cut tops are asking for rape would come under this warped umbrella?
If a boy wears trousers every day of his life, this is surely not a valid reason as to why he raped 17 girls when he was 33? If this is the case then maybe it could become a valid defence in court.
‘Sorry I beat up that old lady but I felt mentally scarred from wearing jeans for the past 20 years.’
It is not the clothes you wear that shape you as a person, it is the way you are brought up, the morals that are instilled in you by your parents and how you are shown right from wrong.
My daughter does ballet but rides around on her father’s tractor. I think if I imposed a blanket ban on her wearing pink it wouldn’t make any difference.
Parenting is all about balance and choice. If my daughter refuses to wear pink- fine or chooses to wear trousers-fine. If she plays with her train set instead of her Disney Princess dolls, it doesn’t bother me.
It is not the Thomas the Tank engine pyjamas or the Peppa Pig nightdress that leads children to grow up aggressive. It is usually something that has happened to them in childhood like witnessing a parent being aggressive or having your photo taken in a pink tutu and appearing in a national newspaper.
Am I missing the gender neutral point? What do you think?