Being a mum-giving birth is the easy part

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What do you think of when you think of a mother?

Nurturing? Selfless? Fun? Loving? Caring? Your best friend? The person who gave birth to you?

Well I agree with all of the above apart from the last one.

While giving birth made me a mum, it didn’t make my mum one.

You see I was chosen. I was adopted. So my mum didn’t carry me for nine months or go through agony to give birth to me. Someone did but it wasn’t my mum.

My mum may not have given birth to me but she is the best mum I could ever have asked for.

She is fearless, my mum. She has stuck up for me for my whole life and believed in me-maybe even if I might have been wrong (not very often) she always finds some good in a bad situation-even when she may not have agreed with what I have done

She is the one always on my side.

I didn’t appreciate my mum properly until I became a mother myself-how ironic is that?

The total limitless love you feel.

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Some people don’t agree with allowing your mother to be present at the birth of your children but, because she hadn’t experienced giving birth to me, I wanted her experience it with me. If you’re in pain, you always want your mum no matter how old you are so for me, it made sense.

Somehow the birth of Boo made us even closer.

I’ve been horrible to my mum in the past. I was the teenager from hell. I told her  I hated her quite a lot.

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I didn’t hate her, quite the opposite.

I can’t thank my mum enough for all that she has done for me. The care, the love, the sacrifice.

She’s my best friend and my rock.

In many ways, the giving birth is the easy part. It is the years after which prove you’re a mum.

Happy Mother’s Day.

 

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  1. What a great post! I couldn’t agree with you more. I have two cousins who are adopted and my aunt and uncle are probably the best parents I know, and as I have watched my cousins go from babies to teenagers I am in awe of what a good job they did. Even speaking as a biological mom of three, giving birth really is the easy part. Cheers.

  2. awww this is beautiful and i am lucky to have a dad that is the same to me, we are not related by blood but he by far is the most amazing man i have ever met d he choose to be my dad so that makes it more special 🙂

    Thanks for linking up with #MagicMoments xxx

  3. What a lovely post. It’s great when you can finally tell your mum how much you appreciate what they did. I’ve done this recently with my step-mum. You’re so right, becoming a mum makes you realise just how much they care. x #AllAboutYou

  4. What a lovely post and I think you’re absolutely right. It’s not about the giving birth really so much as the whole of your and their lives that matters most.

  5. A very touching post. Pregnancy and birth is only part of motherhood and not even an essential part! What really makes us mums is looking after and loving our kids throughout their lives. #pocolo

  6. A really touching post. Just because you gave birth to a baby, it doesn’t always make you a great mum and just because you’re not related by birth, it doesn’t mean you’re not the best mummy a baby could ask for.
    I have a wonderful relationship with my mum and having Potato has made it even stronger, especially now D lives abroad.
    I hope both you and your mum enjoyed another’s Day
    #PoCoLo

  7. I’ve only really appreciated my mum when I too became a mother. My husband is adopted too and as far as he is concerned, his mum is his mum and that’s that. We’ve been trying to have another child, but it doesn’t seem to be meant to be. I guess it could also be the age, we’re not young anymore. I’m thinking whether adoption could be the road for us too. #PoCoLo

  8. What a truly lovely post and great tribute to your Mum 🙂 my Mum was there at Grace’s birth ANSI am so glad that she was as I am still able to share these memories with her. Thank you for linking to PoCoLo x

  9. I couldn’t agree with you more. My stepdad has been more of a father to me than my biological father through all my years, and taught me through love and being there that being a parent isn’t just about biology. Beautiful post, thank you for linking up to #AllAboutYou

  10. I didn’t have the easiest of births – or rather my daughter didn’t! – but I get what you mean! I worry for the teenage years, then the years when she isn’t around for me to protect her, a mother’s lot is not an easy one 😉 #AllAboutYou

  11. A lovely post, I have a recently adopted neice and nephew who are very much part of the family now. We often do not appreciate our parents until we become a parent ourselves. How lovely to share your daughters birth with your mum x, #pocolo

  12. Could not agree more that becoming a mum makes you appreciate your own a whole lot more! I didn’t have my mum at my birth but I went straight to her house when I was in labour, and she was amazing xx

  13. Couldn’t agree more. What happens on the labour ward, or where ever you end up having your baby, is a drop in the ocean. Being a great mum happens over the rest of your life. I too didn’t really appreciate what my mum and everything she had gone through until I became one. It makes me love her even more 🙂 x #MaternityMondays

  14. Oh what a beautiful and wonderful post – your mum sounds so special, as does the amazing bond you both share! Mim @ mamamim.com #maternitymonday

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